“Apology is a lovely perfume,
It can transform the clumsiest moment,
Into a gracious gift .” – Anonymous
According to my experience, self-learning&self-realization in life, an apology comes in three parts..
a) I am sorry,
b) It was my fault,
c) How do I make things right.
A relationship will never consist of good times only. There will be downfalls & rise ups. Dealing with your loved ones &the people around you whom you connect to, is never easy. We look at people around us & expect them to be perfect most of the times, as though they are incapable of making mistakes, often forgetting that they are humans like us only. Even though two people who are close or in touch, have to build mutual understanding & trust to sustain their relationships, may be personal, professional or otherwise.
In order to understand the concept of misunderstanding followed by an apology, people have to basically get a gist of their mindset & their drawbacks. A huge part of an apology comes from keeping blasting egos at bay & acknowledging our own flaws, as to err is always human.
Yes, it’s super easy to point out at the faults of others, rather than looking into our own faults. Playing the blame game is where all of it starts going downhill. Instead of accusing one another, we need to look into ourselves & see that have we inflicted or wounded someone intentionally or unintentionally? Or were we provocative? Once we get the answers to these questions, it becomes easier to apologize or accept an apology.
We often want others to apologize first & when that happens, we are simply giving our ego utmost importance then the relationship. An apology does not make us appear as a weak individual but rather as someone who is brave enough to accept mistakes. Mutual love, bonding & respect grows when both the individuals in a relationship understand that every mistake has to be forgiven, no matter how major it is as long as a sincere apology has been made.
It is essential to know that the first one to apologize is the bravest. No relationship have smooth roads, there are huge bumps too, which can be surpassed with something as simple as a SORRY. Every apology should also have a specific intention. Sometimes people apologize either to surrender out of compulsion or to stop an argument. But a genuine apology should come straight from the heart. People generally tend to look out for ways to defend their mistakes rather than accepting the facts.
Relationships are not about who gives into to who, they are about who is humble enough to acknowledge their mistakes. These words “I AM SORRY”, are often said without much of an effort. We often say things or act in a moment of impulse, not realizing about the outcome of our own actions. More important than saying a hollow sorry, is to mend the issue.
All of us apologize at some point or the other in life, but HOW many of us genuinely care enough to make the required amendments.
Are you ONE of them who will genuinely apologize from the bottom of your heart? If yes put your name or email id in the comment box below as there is a surprise for you……