PEOPLE MAY HEAR YOUR WORDS,
BUT THEY FEEL YOUR ATTITUDE.
CONNECT, a simple word, surprisingly about, the only thing that binds the relationship or keeps it apart at the same time. What are the questions that rotate in your minds when you think about it? Unfortunately, most of us do not understand the meaning of connect quite well. “ Listen to understand, and not listen to reply “ is something we forget in our daily lives.
Now you all will wonder how does connect BREAKOR MAKE a relationship. Let me give you an example.
Zara was a woman of words, her words were not limited by the rules of the society or anything her parents would say. Everyone would say that she was exceptionally excellent when it would come to connect goals, but she thought otherwise as completely opposite herself. Neil a quaint guy, was shy, only spoke when spoken to, but he always made sure that his opinion was strong and firm. When they made their relation work, people around them were curious. So curious in fact, they approached them a lot. “The only problem with connect is that people are normally under the illusion that they are connecting in the right manner, whereas actually they are not.”
Zara was frustrated as she had her ways with words, but did not know the art of saying the right things at the right times. Neil on the other hand was a master at expressions and was an awesome observer. Seeing Zara in turmoil, Neil made her understand that connect did not only mean a way with words or speaking but he actually taught her to understand the underlying meaning and masked attitudes under the spoken words. Its been four years now and people are amazed to see their rocking rapport, love, and respect for each other and how they justified the quote that opposites attract.
Connect is the universal key to several lockswe create in relationships around us. Connect is not just talking or sharing, it is about listening as well. It is grim to listen to our loved ones and people around us because WE ARE BUSY HEARING. We hear complaints, expectations or lack of it, shortcomings, excuses and disappointments. However, when we make a deliberate effort to listen; we pay attention to all the reasons, abilities, and apologies we develop a level of empathy for acceptance and appraisals.
Similarly, we talk about our problems, difficulties, daily routines, discomforts, and failures. However, when we connect in a positive way, we converse about happiness, goals, life, success and satisfaction with ourselves and others.
Today many of us are still unaware of the need to connect with family, friends and people around us as we have several things to juggle with. However, we need to realize that connect is the only key to get us out of our juggling locks of life. The locks we ourselves have created. These locks lead us to several questions about us and our surroundings. Can you imagine how relaxed you will feel when your family understands about your work life? If your friends understand your choices and your partner understands your expectations? IMPOSSIBLE TO IMAGINE? NO! Think about it, if we dedicate some time from our day to connect about life to people who really matter to us. Would there really be so much stress?
Stress is universal word used to express our inability to connect and live the life we want or the life we imagine for ourselves. Connecting our needs would release all our thoughts about our inabilities that we create because we choose to talk and hear. More than spending the time on hearing or talking to others and their needs, we need to rather spend time on connecting to build a stronger foundation for our relationships. Locking ourselves is easy, it is making the key that requires efforts and the key in itself is easy to unwind if we understand its significance.
There are several studies conducted on about different ways men and women connect. Reading the studies and implementing them is not the solution. In fact, there is no solution per se . Your partner or loved ones or people whom we are in touch with, are you really LISTENING to them with a true intent. What really needs to be studied is the ability to connect using that lies inherently within us. Logic, emotions and expressions are a few powerful vehicles to connect with. Time, touch and tete-a-tete are few ways we could ace our connect with loved ones. To connect is very simple, but to take the initiative to connect in a positive mode is what needs attention and requires conscious efforts.
THE SINGLE BIGGEST BLOCKER
IN CONNECT IS
THE ILLUSION THAT
IT HAS TAKEN PLACE.
SO ARE YOU READY TO TAKE THE PLUNGE TO HAVE A CANDID CONNECT?
If yes then what is the first step you will take.
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